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Is love a choice, a feeling, or a practice?
Love may begin as feeling, but many philosophers treat it as attention, commitment, and action.
Why this question matters
The answer changes how people think about loyalty, marriage, friendship, forgiveness, and care.
Context and background
- Ancient accounts connect love to friendship and the good.
- Existential accounts warn against possessing another person.
- Care ethics emphasizes concrete response to another's needs.
Different perspectives
Aristotelian
Deep love includes wishing good for another for their own sake.
Aristotle
Existential
Love must respect the other's freedom rather than possess it.
Simone de Beauvoir
Care ethics
Love is sustained through attention, responsiveness, and responsibility.
bell hooksNel Noddings
“One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.”
Simone de Beauvoir
“We are what we repeatedly do.”
Aristotle
Think about it
- Can love survive without warm emotion?
- Can a feeling create an obligation?
- What action would prove love when words fail?